When Lily Evans told James Potter that she wouldn’t go out with him because he was a bully, he stopped bullying people and redeemed himself. When Lily told Severus Snape that she wouldn’t go out with him because he called her a racial slur, he went on to join a racist terrorist group.
Conclusion: James Potter handled rejection much better than Severus Snape does.
makisekurisus asked: the best example I've heard against losers who use "not all men": "When you go to the pool and the lifeguard tells everyone to stop running, if you weren't running in the first place, you can safely assume that they weren't talking to you anyway. It's not necessary to call attention to the fact that you weren't running."
This is in fact an absurd example. One can assume safely that the pool-goers not protesting are not near the runners in question and that the lifeguard’s attention is focused when the whistle is blown and the command uttered.
The accusation against men who say “not me” are responding to blanket statements of “men are jerks because they do ‘x’ ” which seems to include all men in its circumference of guilt. What should be said is “men who do ‘x’ are jerks,” which narrows the circle down to a narrow spotlight on those who perform the guilty action (running by the pool in this case).
If you’re tired of dealing with “not me” statements, consider the language you’re using— it may have more to do with the reasons why there are protests than you think.
Oh look, a guy with a porn blog is here to mansplain us silly ladies about how “not all men.” Thanks for the tone-policing, broseph.
Okay so I grew up in a tourist town and the town’s economy heavily depends upon tourism, okay? And I’ve worked jobs in that town (because duh it’s my hometown) that required me to deal with said tourists.
Tourists don’t read signs. Tourists maybe do read signs, but somehow think they don’t apply to them. Like the guy who came in the exit “because the entrance was closed” THAT IS BECAUSE WE ARE NOT OPEN YET (hours clearly posted, it was 6:30 AM, omfg). Tourists are legend for asking questions like “at what altitude do deer turn into elk?” and “where are the mountains?” and so forth (hi it’s a small mountain town). Also, they don’t know how to drive. They don’t follow speed limits because they’re too busy ogling the mountains or doing whatever.
I’ve had tourists walk out into the middle of the street in front of me, while I’m driving a car, without looking, to take pictures.
Fucking tourists, man. They’re a fucking nightmare.
OH BUT WAIT IT’S NOT ALL TOURISTS. I am just venting and telling stories about the worst and most inconsiderate ones! I mean the good tourists, I don’t even really notice because they are fine and behave like reasonable people! But anyone from a tourist town knows EXACTLY what I am talking about when I start to complain about tourists.
It’s the same damn thing. If you’re not one of THOSE tourists, then you’re not who we’re complaining about. Although let’s be real anyone who’s been a tourist has probably done something foolish because you’re unfamiliar with the territory, and wow this analogy is really apt because the same thing goes for men too! It’s like when you’re unaware of something, say, patriarchal privilege or local customs, you are probably going to make mistakes sometimes that annoy, say, underprivileged people or locals!
When in Rome, do as the Romans do. Learn where your privilege-unawareness is and become aware.
I don’t think writers realize that “strong female character” means “well written female character” and not “female character who punches stuff and shoots stuff”
When men say that they “love to see the woman underneath the makeup,” they’re not saying they want to see your leg stubble and greasy bangs—they’re saying they want you to be better at hiding your maintenance routine. Because the maintenance spoils the fantasy.
enough about sex positions has anyone discovered a reading position which doesn’t get uncomfortable after 5 minutes